Be Like a Bendy Tree

Updated: Jun 23


If you're here, then I'm guessing you're human.

Life is not a Disney movie with "happily ever after" a guarantee.

No, this is real life and there isn't a human on earth whose course has been all sunshine and roses. Challenges, obstacles, disappointment, sadness, and heartache are all part of being human. If we accept that it's part of the package, then the next step is to learn how to deal with it in the best way possible.

As much as we'd like a magic pill or instant fix to take away our hurt and pain when we experience the stuff of life, it just doesn't work like that.

The other day, I was looking out my window during windy storm and I noticed the way the trees were moving. It sparked the idea that the tree was giving me a lesson in how to cope with life's ups and downs.

Think of yourself as that tree, caught in gale force winds. It is ripping through your branches, placing stress on every part of your body, blowing leaves from your branching limbs and shredding bark from your trunk.

If you withdraw and hide from the world, severing your roots, your connections to family and friends, your whole tree might topple over. Without a strong root system of support, you are not getting the nutrients you need to heal, and this causes your branches to become brittle and to break.

But if you stay connected to support, if you bend with the wind and allow it to pass through, you will be irrevocably changed, but you will remain. To bend, you need to nurture yourself with choices that make you physically and mentally healthy so that your branches are always green, growing and flexible.

Through self-care, acceptance and supportive relationships, you will be able to bend without breaking. You will survive and from there, you can rebuild yourself, reviving your dreams so that you can become a better self, growing and thriving with a new resilience and hope for the future.